There are many different ways of "sleep training." The most common is the "cry it out method" of letting your child cry until they learn to fall asleep in their crib on their own. There are many versions of the "cry it out method." Some mothers will stay in the room, some will leave, some will rub the child's tummy or back or sing without picking the child up.
What is my take on it? It is not for me.
I believe a child cries for a reason, whether it be to be held, nursed, rocked, or just to be close to his or her mother or father while falling asleep. Why would you want to teach your baby that his or her cries do not affect you? That you will not comfort him the way he or she needs to be comforted?
I want Harper to know that when it is time for her to sleep, I will be there to guide her into her sleep and help her to see that it isn't a scary or upsetting time, but a peaceful transition. I may not always be successful at this, but that is my main goal. I do not want Harper to ever think I will not respond when she cries, or that I will leave her when she is distressed and needs me. She is only a baby and will only be for a short time.
I treasure the time I get to spend nursing, rocking, or singing Harper to sleep each night and for her nap each afternoon. These are such precious moments that as a mother, I can never get back. I would rather take an hour or more to let Harper fall asleep easily than listen to her crying out for me and to not respond. We are always willing to spend more time on meaningless things instead of loving and cherishing the time we have with our babies. If you are considering the "cry it out method," take a minute and consider what you are really showing your baby. Is it worth it in the end?
